How to become extraordinary person.

I am going to be sharing with you what it means to stand out of the crowd. You can stand tall amongst several. It is beyond your stature, what you wear, the brand of your costume and colors of your make ups. It is the size of your soul. It depends on the largeness of your heart. There is "how" to almost everything in life.If you want to be an extraordinary person in life, you've got to learn the how.You must know the principles to becoming a person of influence. An influence can be said to be an authourity,a tangible effect, some unusual power, an impact which some people have over others. It can be a reverence for someone, such respect that makes them more valued in the life of people than everybody else.Influence can be reduced to a question of how many lives we have meaningfully touched, affected, and impacted. Who can we say that your life have actually touched? Who made it through,by associating with you? who got it right by watching your lifestyle? How do people see you? How do they talk about you? What do they think of you? When your name is mentioned, what ring in people's hearts? How comfortable do people feel in your presence? These questions and more determine the extent of your influence. Although there are no insignificant people; basically, there are two types of people in life. There are influential people and un-influential people. People who make you feel great when you enter into their presence and people who make you feel inferior and intimidated when you enter their presence. People who make you leave their presence feeling filled and fulfilled and those who make you leave their presence feeling empty and worthless.

Now I must quickly say that influence can become so contagious. Depending on who you associate with, you can be a good influence or a bad influence.I have classified influence into sweet influence and sour influence. You can be energetic, charismatic and still not be a sweet influence on others. An example was Adolf Hitler. You can be oppressive of people, dragging everybody to suit your selfish plans and stampeding everyone to win. Your negative attitude will only be tolerated rather than celebrated. In order to be a sweet influence on people, you must be human, be natural, be sincere, selfless, giving up certain things for people, helping people, celebrating people. When considering influence, i like to think of Nelson Mandela. Although, he already handed over power in South Africa. He is still influential till date. Several Presidents have gone to him for counsel. They went to learn and tap from his wisdom. When it comes to knowing what makes someone sweet and the other sour. It depends on you as an individual. It also depends on the people you are serving, your area of influence and what you are doing there. If you are lording it over people, using people to climb, dragging them into suiting your programs and exploiting people. You can bet it that your influence will not last. It will soon fade. You will count for nothing in their record later on. They may pretend to be inspired by you, but they are actually scared of you and when you turn your back, they will mock you. Being a sweet influence require that you lead people rightly with integrity. You can be so good at mobilizing people and leading them yet you are untrustworthy. People want to be able to trust their leader. If you are a terrible follower, it will be difficult to be a sweet influence even among the crowd of followers. There are certain people whose lifestyle command great respect anywhere, yet they have no position or title. Their oppinion count always with people. That is influence. This thing is greater than any prefix of nomenclature. It is a matter of the heart, a question of impact, input and contributions made to other people’s lives.

It is important to make sure that people leave our presence feeling great. It is vital they leave us, feeling motivated, feeling elated, and ready to capture their world. This is determined by how we behave, how we listen, how we speak what we speak to them and with them. It is when your life begins to make a meaning to others; that is when you are actually living. People need to be comfortable around us. People who make you feel uncomfortable whenever you are around them are the ones with problems. They should be tactfully avoided. They suffer low self esteem. That is why they will try to put you down to feel good with themselves. Some cover it up with material things. They use their toys to tease you. They are covering up that vacuum in their hearts. There is a wound that has refused to heal in their empty hearts. It takes a person who is secured in himself/herself to see greatness in others and celebrate it. It takes such people with a good heart to extend praise and grace to others. It does not cost a thing to give compliments to others, a smile is a gift. These and more are what sweet and influential people do because they are full of life. When people extend a warm handshake it does not mean that they are welcoming. The heart determines the person beyond all his charms. Do they reflect authenticity in their gestures? How open-minded are they? How do they feel around you? What do they say about you? Does it appear as though they really want to hear from you? Does your struggles and success mean something to them? Does your story interests them? Do they just care about their own stories of endless conquests without listening to yours? Again it all depends on how secured they feel firstly in themselves...Insecure people hardly become truly influential.

Through business, whether profit oriented or non profit, you serve people. It is a matter of stooping to lift others up. You are either doing this or you are oppressing people. Basically how you do whatever you do will determine how much of influence you command. If you are concerned about having a positive impact and leaving a good legacy, it is important you serve. Hence, it is through service or by service! There is no other option. When you are concerned about people’s lives, you will easily influence them. When you are not greedy for gain, you will impact people. When you start thinking of how to give back, and what to give to others; you will gradually become influential in their world. Some people just want to be influential. They think being influential is an end in itself. A successful person knows that it is in being able to serve other people, that s/he earns the people's trust. And it is important we earn people's trust. It is in earning that trust from people that they are able to take us serious. It is in that we become their role models. It is in their acceptance of us that our success is partly measured. It is in earning their trust that they choose us as their leader . If you don’t want to serve people; there is a very little chance of being successful or being influential at all.

Michael Jackson was so influential during his life time. He influenced both young and old through his Pop music such that when he died, the entire world knew and felt it. What was so remarkable about this legend? He has been influential from childhood. He kept at what he knew how to do best. He was focused. His fame spread like wildfire. He was doubtlessly attacked. He was lied against but the truth remain that, he brought the whole world to a stand still in his death. Wait a second. Was he insecure in himself or not? That is not my focus right now. What I am driving at here, is that you can learn certain things from his life. You can learn his principles by using what you have to take the world. With your consistency, in being focused, you will influence the world. Did Michael Jackson serve people. I think so. through his songs. You will need to use whatever gift you have to serve people. You will need to work on your gift as well as on your attitude. I am still working on mine too. So you aren’t alone.