Breaking the power of seduction

Seduction can be seen everywhere ranging from religion, advertisement, marketing world to nook and cranny of the society. If you look logically, examine closely enough you can identify it and avoid being a victim of seduction. If you don’t know how to evaluate the situation most of the time you can lose your money, time, resources, marriages, life, even your soul to seduction. Out of ignorance and carelessness you can become the victim of seduction. Seduction is a process. Some people will identify with it being referred to as a spirit.
Let me quickly define seduction and the seducer in this context that can be more encompassing. In this context, seduction is any situation, anything, anyone, whose appearance, whose words, who by being around, who on encounter, through contact with you makes you feel magnetized. The hold that person or situation have on you may not necessarily be harmful at first but down the line you seem to be losing something. It could be something intangible as your freedom. It could be something more than physical (Odunuga, 2009). The Encarta Dictionary defined Seduction this way. “Seduction something that tempts, persuades, or attracts,” “leading astray of somebody.” “The act of persuading somebody to have sex, especially by using a romantic or deceptive approach”

Seduction can be so strong, appealing and teasing that it makes you feel powerless. Sometimes you just seem to be losing your whole sense of control. It’s like you are unable to control the situation. The power to be in charge seems to be gone. The key to breaking the power of seduction is breaking that magnetism that exists between you and the person or object in the situation. If you want to break free that magnetic field between you and the seducer must be intercepted. That force that is holding you down must be broken. There is a “how to” everything in life. Seduction is like taking up an iron filling or a metallic object with a piece of magnet. The only thing that can free up the iron filling or metallic object is another stronger magnet or force.

It must be noted that an object can seduce. In such situation, someone placed the object in a strategic location in form of advert in order to seduce, attract and appeal to you. For instance the tendencies to steal something, the temptation to buy something, the pressure to grab someone, the feeling to take hold of someone or something; all involve the same thing called a seductive force. When you feel like snatching something or you sense that someone is irresistible for you. Your judgement can be cloudy if you are not aware of all these information. It is easy to rationalize seduction. You will never realize the power you have over seduction if you keep rationalizing it. I understand that seduction and the seducer can be very strong. Your eyes are the first gate that must be shut at the seducer. Rule number one is eyes closed! Rule number two is ear closed! Rule number three is mouth shut! The next is to speak to all other senses to dissociate. You are free when you refuse to engage your entire self in the process.

Who are seducers?
When you first saw the title of this writing I am sure that the first kind of people that readily came to your mind as seducer is a harlot/ prostitute, or a striper? Seducers are more than that. Some sales people seduce you into buying products you don’t want or need. Some investors lure you by offering you a fat money loan with the intent of taking over your business once your idea gets into implementation phase because their share in your business will eventually eliminate you. Some multilevel marketers seduce you into joining their down line, so that they can climb higher on the sales ladder and become a strong up line that generates more points and money. Some sales people just try to sell you any product (sometimes it could be so funny that they have not used that product themselves). Sometimes, some Jehovah witnesses keep reappearing on your doorstep just to sell you another gospel. Some telemarketers keep phoning your home just to convince you of their service. Some websites’ hosts keep sending you spam mails that make your junk mailbox full. If you don’t unsubscribe you keep getting the same thing forever. And the key in seduction which the seducers understand better than you is that persistence wears down any man.

So how do I break seduction? - Good question. Try to do the following:
• Don’t keep in touch
• Don’t return the seducer’s call
• Don’t go back to revisit the seducer
• Avoid where you felt seduced.
• Reduce contact with the seducer
• Break communication deliberately with the seducer.
• Withdraw concentration from the seducer.
• Explain to the person that you cannot, you don’t want to.
• Be sincere, be straight forward that you don’t want to be a part of this. When you lie, you will have to lie again. You need more lie to cover pre-existing lies in order to convince the seducer. When you are blunt, the message will cut through like a sword and you will be freed.
• Give yourself to a cause bigger than you.
• Take the focus from you to other people.
• Sacrifice your idle time for other people’s good. People need help everywhere. Find a way to serve. Freely volunteer.
• Embrace purposeful living


The easiest way is to allow time before you continue relating with the person who seduces you. The temperature of passion that speeds up the process of seduction would have to cool down. Take it slowly when the other person is trying to rush you into a process. If the person is taking it slow, speed up the process disengaging. The key is to alternate the frequency between you. So the actual way to overcome seduction is to Flee! In case of a seduction from a sales person, the key is to learn to say No! In case of a seduction from a striper, the key is to leave the place. In the case of a temptation to sin, the key is to run away and then start praying from afar. I said the last thing is Prayer because the God said so! Many people try to pray before fleeing and they end up as victims. It must be noted that all the aforementioned can only help you if you are really willing to be freed from seduction. Seduction can be overcome no matter how strong it feels. If you are not tired of being a victim of seduction; you will keep ending up as victim and wondering how you got into such mess. Mess will never make you, rather it will mar you. Don’t sit back in a mess and wish it will someday turn into a message. It will require deliberate steps to come out of it and become a better person. Greatness belongs to those who can avoid being a continual victim of seduction. The truth is that in this matter, prayers actually come last. The definition of prayer here means communication. It means communicate with God. It means talk to God about it. It means confess it to God and ask for support. Ask for strength, ask for grace and help.
Seduction can be overcome even though there could be irresistibility kind of force coming from the seducer. To be seduced is a phenomenon. It is normal, it is not new. The fact is that you need to know how to handle the situation because some people seem to have stronger energy level emanating from them. Some individuals tend to have, influence, and charisma. They are stronger with overpowering spirit, sometimes they are domineering and encountering them directly or indirectly can just beat you. Things are just beyond you. So be wise!

How to become extraordinary person.

I am going to be sharing with you what it means to stand out of the crowd. You can stand tall amongst several. It is beyond your stature, what you wear, the brand of your costume and colors of your make ups. It is the size of your soul. It depends on the largeness of your heart. There is "how" to almost everything in life.If you want to be an extraordinary person in life, you've got to learn the how.You must know the principles to becoming a person of influence. An influence can be said to be an authourity,a tangible effect, some unusual power, an impact which some people have over others. It can be a reverence for someone, such respect that makes them more valued in the life of people than everybody else.Influence can be reduced to a question of how many lives we have meaningfully touched, affected, and impacted. Who can we say that your life have actually touched? Who made it through,by associating with you? who got it right by watching your lifestyle? How do people see you? How do they talk about you? What do they think of you? When your name is mentioned, what ring in people's hearts? How comfortable do people feel in your presence? These questions and more determine the extent of your influence. Although there are no insignificant people; basically, there are two types of people in life. There are influential people and un-influential people. People who make you feel great when you enter into their presence and people who make you feel inferior and intimidated when you enter their presence. People who make you leave their presence feeling filled and fulfilled and those who make you leave their presence feeling empty and worthless.

Now I must quickly say that influence can become so contagious. Depending on who you associate with, you can be a good influence or a bad influence.I have classified influence into sweet influence and sour influence. You can be energetic, charismatic and still not be a sweet influence on others. An example was Adolf Hitler. You can be oppressive of people, dragging everybody to suit your selfish plans and stampeding everyone to win. Your negative attitude will only be tolerated rather than celebrated. In order to be a sweet influence on people, you must be human, be natural, be sincere, selfless, giving up certain things for people, helping people, celebrating people. When considering influence, i like to think of Nelson Mandela. Although, he already handed over power in South Africa. He is still influential till date. Several Presidents have gone to him for counsel. They went to learn and tap from his wisdom. When it comes to knowing what makes someone sweet and the other sour. It depends on you as an individual. It also depends on the people you are serving, your area of influence and what you are doing there. If you are lording it over people, using people to climb, dragging them into suiting your programs and exploiting people. You can bet it that your influence will not last. It will soon fade. You will count for nothing in their record later on. They may pretend to be inspired by you, but they are actually scared of you and when you turn your back, they will mock you. Being a sweet influence require that you lead people rightly with integrity. You can be so good at mobilizing people and leading them yet you are untrustworthy. People want to be able to trust their leader. If you are a terrible follower, it will be difficult to be a sweet influence even among the crowd of followers. There are certain people whose lifestyle command great respect anywhere, yet they have no position or title. Their oppinion count always with people. That is influence. This thing is greater than any prefix of nomenclature. It is a matter of the heart, a question of impact, input and contributions made to other people’s lives.

It is important to make sure that people leave our presence feeling great. It is vital they leave us, feeling motivated, feeling elated, and ready to capture their world. This is determined by how we behave, how we listen, how we speak what we speak to them and with them. It is when your life begins to make a meaning to others; that is when you are actually living. People need to be comfortable around us. People who make you feel uncomfortable whenever you are around them are the ones with problems. They should be tactfully avoided. They suffer low self esteem. That is why they will try to put you down to feel good with themselves. Some cover it up with material things. They use their toys to tease you. They are covering up that vacuum in their hearts. There is a wound that has refused to heal in their empty hearts. It takes a person who is secured in himself/herself to see greatness in others and celebrate it. It takes such people with a good heart to extend praise and grace to others. It does not cost a thing to give compliments to others, a smile is a gift. These and more are what sweet and influential people do because they are full of life. When people extend a warm handshake it does not mean that they are welcoming. The heart determines the person beyond all his charms. Do they reflect authenticity in their gestures? How open-minded are they? How do they feel around you? What do they say about you? Does it appear as though they really want to hear from you? Does your struggles and success mean something to them? Does your story interests them? Do they just care about their own stories of endless conquests without listening to yours? Again it all depends on how secured they feel firstly in themselves...Insecure people hardly become truly influential.

Through business, whether profit oriented or non profit, you serve people. It is a matter of stooping to lift others up. You are either doing this or you are oppressing people. Basically how you do whatever you do will determine how much of influence you command. If you are concerned about having a positive impact and leaving a good legacy, it is important you serve. Hence, it is through service or by service! There is no other option. When you are concerned about people’s lives, you will easily influence them. When you are not greedy for gain, you will impact people. When you start thinking of how to give back, and what to give to others; you will gradually become influential in their world. Some people just want to be influential. They think being influential is an end in itself. A successful person knows that it is in being able to serve other people, that s/he earns the people's trust. And it is important we earn people's trust. It is in earning that trust from people that they are able to take us serious. It is in that we become their role models. It is in their acceptance of us that our success is partly measured. It is in earning their trust that they choose us as their leader . If you don’t want to serve people; there is a very little chance of being successful or being influential at all.

Michael Jackson was so influential during his life time. He influenced both young and old through his Pop music such that when he died, the entire world knew and felt it. What was so remarkable about this legend? He has been influential from childhood. He kept at what he knew how to do best. He was focused. His fame spread like wildfire. He was doubtlessly attacked. He was lied against but the truth remain that, he brought the whole world to a stand still in his death. Wait a second. Was he insecure in himself or not? That is not my focus right now. What I am driving at here, is that you can learn certain things from his life. You can learn his principles by using what you have to take the world. With your consistency, in being focused, you will influence the world. Did Michael Jackson serve people. I think so. through his songs. You will need to use whatever gift you have to serve people. You will need to work on your gift as well as on your attitude. I am still working on mine too. So you aren’t alone.