How to become extraordinary person.

I am going to be sharing with you what it means to stand out of the crowd. You can stand tall amongst several. It is beyond your stature, what you wear, the brand of your costume and colors of your make ups. It is the size of your soul. It depends on the largeness of your heart. There is "how" to almost everything in life.If you want to be an extraordinary person in life, you've got to learn the how.You must know the principles to becoming a person of influence. An influence can be said to be an authourity,a tangible effect, some unusual power, an impact which some people have over others. It can be a reverence for someone, such respect that makes them more valued in the life of people than everybody else.Influence can be reduced to a question of how many lives we have meaningfully touched, affected, and impacted. Who can we say that your life have actually touched? Who made it through,by associating with you? who got it right by watching your lifestyle? How do people see you? How do they talk about you? What do they think of you? When your name is mentioned, what ring in people's hearts? How comfortable do people feel in your presence? These questions and more determine the extent of your influence. Although there are no insignificant people; basically, there are two types of people in life. There are influential people and un-influential people. People who make you feel great when you enter into their presence and people who make you feel inferior and intimidated when you enter their presence. People who make you leave their presence feeling filled and fulfilled and those who make you leave their presence feeling empty and worthless.

Now I must quickly say that influence can become so contagious. Depending on who you associate with, you can be a good influence or a bad influence.I have classified influence into sweet influence and sour influence. You can be energetic, charismatic and still not be a sweet influence on others. An example was Adolf Hitler. You can be oppressive of people, dragging everybody to suit your selfish plans and stampeding everyone to win. Your negative attitude will only be tolerated rather than celebrated. In order to be a sweet influence on people, you must be human, be natural, be sincere, selfless, giving up certain things for people, helping people, celebrating people. When considering influence, i like to think of Nelson Mandela. Although, he already handed over power in South Africa. He is still influential till date. Several Presidents have gone to him for counsel. They went to learn and tap from his wisdom. When it comes to knowing what makes someone sweet and the other sour. It depends on you as an individual. It also depends on the people you are serving, your area of influence and what you are doing there. If you are lording it over people, using people to climb, dragging them into suiting your programs and exploiting people. You can bet it that your influence will not last. It will soon fade. You will count for nothing in their record later on. They may pretend to be inspired by you, but they are actually scared of you and when you turn your back, they will mock you. Being a sweet influence require that you lead people rightly with integrity. You can be so good at mobilizing people and leading them yet you are untrustworthy. People want to be able to trust their leader. If you are a terrible follower, it will be difficult to be a sweet influence even among the crowd of followers. There are certain people whose lifestyle command great respect anywhere, yet they have no position or title. Their oppinion count always with people. That is influence. This thing is greater than any prefix of nomenclature. It is a matter of the heart, a question of impact, input and contributions made to other people’s lives.

It is important to make sure that people leave our presence feeling great. It is vital they leave us, feeling motivated, feeling elated, and ready to capture their world. This is determined by how we behave, how we listen, how we speak what we speak to them and with them. It is when your life begins to make a meaning to others; that is when you are actually living. People need to be comfortable around us. People who make you feel uncomfortable whenever you are around them are the ones with problems. They should be tactfully avoided. They suffer low self esteem. That is why they will try to put you down to feel good with themselves. Some cover it up with material things. They use their toys to tease you. They are covering up that vacuum in their hearts. There is a wound that has refused to heal in their empty hearts. It takes a person who is secured in himself/herself to see greatness in others and celebrate it. It takes such people with a good heart to extend praise and grace to others. It does not cost a thing to give compliments to others, a smile is a gift. These and more are what sweet and influential people do because they are full of life. When people extend a warm handshake it does not mean that they are welcoming. The heart determines the person beyond all his charms. Do they reflect authenticity in their gestures? How open-minded are they? How do they feel around you? What do they say about you? Does it appear as though they really want to hear from you? Does your struggles and success mean something to them? Does your story interests them? Do they just care about their own stories of endless conquests without listening to yours? Again it all depends on how secured they feel firstly in themselves...Insecure people hardly become truly influential.

Through business, whether profit oriented or non profit, you serve people. It is a matter of stooping to lift others up. You are either doing this or you are oppressing people. Basically how you do whatever you do will determine how much of influence you command. If you are concerned about having a positive impact and leaving a good legacy, it is important you serve. Hence, it is through service or by service! There is no other option. When you are concerned about people’s lives, you will easily influence them. When you are not greedy for gain, you will impact people. When you start thinking of how to give back, and what to give to others; you will gradually become influential in their world. Some people just want to be influential. They think being influential is an end in itself. A successful person knows that it is in being able to serve other people, that s/he earns the people's trust. And it is important we earn people's trust. It is in earning that trust from people that they are able to take us serious. It is in that we become their role models. It is in their acceptance of us that our success is partly measured. It is in earning their trust that they choose us as their leader . If you don’t want to serve people; there is a very little chance of being successful or being influential at all.

Michael Jackson was so influential during his life time. He influenced both young and old through his Pop music such that when he died, the entire world knew and felt it. What was so remarkable about this legend? He has been influential from childhood. He kept at what he knew how to do best. He was focused. His fame spread like wildfire. He was doubtlessly attacked. He was lied against but the truth remain that, he brought the whole world to a stand still in his death. Wait a second. Was he insecure in himself or not? That is not my focus right now. What I am driving at here, is that you can learn certain things from his life. You can learn his principles by using what you have to take the world. With your consistency, in being focused, you will influence the world. Did Michael Jackson serve people. I think so. through his songs. You will need to use whatever gift you have to serve people. You will need to work on your gift as well as on your attitude. I am still working on mine too. So you aren’t alone.

What you don’t know about greatness.

Let me shoot straight at you. Don't read this if you don't want to become successful. Very recently,i was inspired by the Holy Spirit to compile some pictures of great and successful people from all walks of life.I added a picture of mine with them. And i printed it out on just one glossy photo paper.I framed it up and hung it in my sitting room. It serves as a reflector of my heart. It represents where i want to be in life. I understand that God is great. Why shouldn't i? I am not the first person to be doing this kind of thing. It's just that this is my own time to reinforce the principle. I must let you know that the discipline of success is taught in an invincible school called: School of greatness. There is an invincible drill going on daily for greatness to be birthed. There is a rigorous training in which very few people participate in. There’s an institution of success that few people who enroll and attend, systematically attain stardom. This is quite different from the normal schools around. It is not the same thing as the ordinary institutions we see around. The curriculum is self evolved. The time table, sessions, class hours are self chosen. Exceptional people attend there. Those few who succeed in life are students of that school. They strive to learn what others don’t care about. These people are busy working day and night, reading hard, thinking through, and pummeling themselves to align with their vision. With Intentionality they press on to become better people in life. You have to know what you need to know to blow off the limitation. And because you don’t know what you don’t know, these are one of the reasons why they read and study.

Success and greatness takes more than self awareness. You need to consciously pursue after success to reach there. You have to keep pedaling forward until you reach the city of greatness. The people who attend this invincible school of greatness are on their way there. These are people who have signed up for the course called success. They have sold out their hearts for development. They have tied their lives up for improvement. Development is their target. They are not afraid of taking calculated risks and making changes. They have surrendered their lives to the discipline of the school of greatness. Working on their character daily, embracing the right school of thought in totality. They follow the same trend of hard work. They give over themselves unto right principles, right relationships, right actions and more. Although, their lives may look boring to some, they may miss temporary fun in the moment; they may look phony, weird to some others. But as they keep looking inwards to grow daily, they are climbing each rung towards greatness. By reading unpressurized books, buying books which nobody has enforced on them, listening to tapes and CDs, watching heroic and educative movies, listening to informative podcasts, going to seminars; they are chatting the course to greatness in the invincible realm. As they keep studying the life of those who have succeeded in the past. They are ingraining their exceptional spirit. By repeating what those successful people did rightly in order to succeed. They are forming a habit which will shape their destiny forever. By asking questions, having mentors and life coaches; they are led to the great path which successful people of old threaded to get to where they reached. It was not an accident. And it will not be accidental. It was through conscious consistent efforts in the right direction. Greatness is not a mistake. You will reap exactly what you sow. Successes don’t just jump on people. The value of small but consistent actions can never be underestimated. Nothing just happen to any man, I don’t believe that there is anyone called a lucky person on earth. He must have been sowing some secret seeds somewhere which no one knew about. So when he reaped the fruits of his heart and he plucked the rewards of his labor; ignorant people merely look and concluded he was lucky.

If I may ask you now, considering the pace at which you are going presently, considering where you want to go in life, are you positioning yourself rightly each day? Considering your age, if we are to compare your age with the age of those successful people you want to be like, were they doing what you are doing now at the same age? If we are to evaluate the lives of those great people we read about. If you were to read in between the lines of their biographies; how did they achieve greatness? Were they doing what you are doing right now? Were they doing things exactly how you are doing it now? Or were they committed to something much more tasking? The stake to greatness is getting higher each day. In terms of what it entails to be successful, more is required of us. And it seems that every generation seems to have their own peculiar big breaking point when those who succeed actually emerge. There is always a momentum prior to that effect. That can not happen without periods of self discipline wherein those great people would have faced their own self. Conquer their fears. Run over their limitations. Fight their individual battles against mediocrity. There is a unique huddle everyone has got to jump. Their huddle to success and greatness may have shaped their life in determining how they succeeded and why we hear so much of them in our day.

Sometimes, some people wonder if those people who lived in the 16th, 17th, 18th, 19th, and 20th century actually faced such nerve-racking huddles as we are facing now. And I wonder why not. They were not more fortunate than us. There is no point doubting whether or not they got into greatness of equal standard with our day. Although, it was not all the students of that invincible school of greatness got to be famous and read about. We did not even know so many people. However, people who disciplined themselves to be successful attain it in their own right. They were few. Yet they were true. Such thing called the discipline of success was probably uncommon in their day. Listing out the number of great people in those times; I am not sure whether or not they outnumbered their successors. The population of the successful people in each successive era may have been determined by the rate at which people actually enroll in that school of greatness. And much more, in how they stayed through the process thereof.

I stand to be corrected that reading just one book such as “Think and grow rich” or any exceptional book at all; can make one truly rich or successful. Doing just one thing and expecting huge result hardly works. To suddenly become rich, is to take a short cut. I think we need to understand that. We need to know why must do better and how we can do better. As we study patterns, succession, history and the culture of greatness. We will read of the wealth of principles that was passed down from one generation to another. We will understand the trend. We need the global perspective on how things evolved from generation to generation. We need to know how success and greatness got re-defined over decades until it got to our generation. And we will need to look for, and understand the common patterns in each stage and each age. It is my thought that: the gateway to riches got more challenging because many people already know the same things...the popular old principles which the likes of Napoleon Hills wrote about has become a common knowledge and almost obsolete. You remember the law of demand and supply? That the higher the demand the lower the supply. The universe works with it still. When everyone already knows the same thing, it becomes a common knowledge. And the value of common knowledge is that it’s almost nothing. If something must be valued and appreciated, it has to be rare. This is why fewest people believe that the search for wealth of knowledge has just began. We are starting all over again. It takes those who will search deeper to know something special, some new strategies for winning. I mean after reading all we have read so far. We have come to realized that more is required of us than others. It will take those who will read above others to stand out of the crowd and lead others. We cannot expect to read common books and suddenly lead people. We can't attain stardom cheaply. If we read the same things like everyone, it means we all know the same thing. The question is this: What are those uncommon principles that others are yet to know about? That is what will make us stand out of the park. That is why you don’t become the student of success by just reading of successful people. You have to become a follower of successful principles, successful trends; you have to become an observer of patterns, a lover of greatness, et.al. And you must constantly look out for what other people are not looking out for. You must go deeper!

When you enroll in this invincible university of Greatness; everything about your life will change. In this invincible school, sometimes thoughts must be weighed on a scale, thoughts must be inverted, recaptured, bright ideas must be scrutinized for the realization of success. You cannot be thinking like everybody else and expect to be their leader. You have to think ahead of them. You have to go above their ideologies. And sometimes, it means becoming different. It means you are not afraid to stand alone and be called weird by some people. In that school of greatness, you cannot graduate in four years like it is in the common college. Sorry. You have signed up for life! You must resolve in your mind that you will stay through the process. You must determine to wait as long as the journey requires of you. Considering when great people got into stardom, looking at the age they got there and the barrier they went through. Do you think they calculated the time it will take them to get there? No. They simply resolve to wait and win come what may. And that was how they won. I think we need to ask ourselves: was there anything we think they did differently? What was so unique about their lives? What were they doing all along before they got their big break? What were they doing differently from their mates every day? By the time we look at these indices. We will realize that we have serious work to do and the time is short!

We need to keep seeing the big picture. We need to focus on the destination we see? One of the rare beauties of life is hidden in the art of living in the unknown, believing in the possibilities and potentials of human spirit and striving hard to become better each day. What do you want to become? Do you believe that you can reach there? What do you look like in the present? How long do you think it will take you to get there? How much are you giving daily towards reaching there? The point is that our daily walks count. We are supposed to look at destiny. We are to consider the time and understand the season. What time is it? In terms of our life goals how far have we come? What is the clock of purpose saying? Are we conscious of destiny? Are we working on fulfilling purpose? All these require working hard with time daily. Time must be invested, traded, managed and maximized… that means that we are to daily seize opportunities. These things will require serious learning, communication with other successful people, consciously networking with great people, and more. In order to fulfill your vision; there’s need to write out your plans, to set your goals,to act towards it. Implementations of dreams require taking deliberate steps towards it. Team work will help you to attain greatness on time. There is no self made millionaire. We need to trust other people and be trusted to reach there. We need right people around us. Writing down certain things, brainstorming, thinking through them, mind-mapping with intelligent people will make us achieve much more. I know you know all that.

Let me quickly ask you this: What is the dominant thought in your mind? Why do you hold on to it? What can you do right now to make that thought bear fruits? What are simple actions steps that will change that thought from mere thinking into materialization? How are you living to implement that vision? Will the realizations of these thoughts make you fulfilled? Will it keep you focused? Can it make you keep putting things in perspective? Will there be connectivity with grand purpose in days to come? What is that one thing you want to live and die for? Are you cultivating your mind field daily? Based on your life experience, what is that information you have been able to learn and gather personally that will be helpful? Do you have a solitude moment when you think creatively? What have you been able to bring out from your solitude experience that will now be resourceful in your journey to greatness?
Greatness is a culture. We don’t just jump into it. We brood in it…for us to breed it! It takes singleness of purpose, focus and commitment. It takes just one heart to run over this bridge of ordinariness unto greatness...the bridge is burning with fire. Just as two lovers whose heart has merged into one can cross any ocean together. We need you to become one with your vision so that you can cross over despites the fire. We need you on the other side victorious. We can all be great and successful. The question is: Will we all do what it takes? You must strive to cross the bridge of greatness to be there on the other side. It takes a heart. It takes a person of courage. If indeed you want to cross over to fulfillment, you need to be inseparable with God and your dreams. In order to cross this bridge to greatness; you will need commitment to God. Your determination will count but without God; you will miss it. Your choice matters. And decision determines destiny. It is a choice to enroll under a discipline wherein no one is watching you, wherein nobody is rewarding you, in which no one rates you nor expects anything of you, yet you chose to be faithful in it all.